Dating is not for the faint of heart. Reviewing applications
and interviewing potentials for a Forever Man (or Woman) can be overwhelming. Whether
looking for a Forever Companion, or just wanting someone to “hang out” with, we
generally have an idea of the qualities we desire most in a date.
When beginning the dating journey after divorce, I felt I
had a good Top 5 list of requirements. To be considered for a date, a man must:
- · Be a Christian.
- · Be truly single (not “separated” or “it’s complicated”).
- · Have a good job and demonstrated stability.
- · Be able to laugh at himself and have a good sense of humor.
- · NOT ask to drive my car (Roxanne and I are tight – it’s just plain rude to expect me to turn her over to some unknown man who doesn’t understand her complexity).
I followed this criterion completely, with little success.
Here are a few of the guys who filled the Top 5 and were granted a first date. (Their names have been changed solely for my enjoyment, cuz I'm twisted that way.)
- Barney Fife – looked just like this iconic television character – and was even in law enforcement! I knew he wasn’t my type pretty quickly, but it was solidified when he left less than a 10% tip for dinner (and I knew one of the waiters from church).
- Hands Guy – held my hand in the car on the way to our first date, and insisted I sit in the booth next to him at the ice cream shop – even after I asked him to move to the other side so I could see him when we talked. Personal space, Hands Guy, personal space!
- Deli Dave – met him at the deli. On our date, he wore a 1980s tracksuit that hadn’t seen a washing machine since it was manufactured. Clearly, he wore his best jeans and t-shirt to the deli!
- Needy guy – expected immediate response to all text messages. Once even used the line “oh, you ARE alive” after it had been an hour between return texts – and I was at work, where I was being paid to work, not send texts.
This is just a sampling. There are more
that may someday become a comedic stand-up routine!
Not all men were one-date- wonders. Some made the first cut and were candidates for a second meeting. However, systematically, one by one each were
eliminated.
And they all had one thing in common.
Tune in tomorrow to learn what the second or third-date
potentials had in common that took them out of the running to be my Forever Man.
Here’s a hint:
For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. 1 Thessalonians 4:7
If you’re single, what are your Top 5 Requirements? Where do
you take a stand when it comes to anyone “applying” to be your Forever Person?
Check back tomorrow - I will share what these guys all had in common, and how God changed the way I look at dating.
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